Daily Grind Toward Holiness



Pure love is capable of great deeds, and it is not broken by difficulty or adversity. As it remains strong in the midst of great difficulties, so too it perseveres in the toilsome and drab life of each day.”
~ Saint Faustina Kowalska †



Come Holy Spirit and renew the faith of my child!


The Holy Spirit is love. He is the love between God the father and God the son. Man craves this love, and we know interiorly that we are in need of the love of the divine. As St. Augustine said so beautifully, “Our heart is restless until it rests in you.” The gospel cites the gift of love as being the greatest gift, “So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”1COR 13:13 .  St. Thomas Aquinas notes that out of the 3 gifts hope love and charity, the one we take with us into heaven is love


We all love our children and want the best for them. As it is written:  “What father among you would hand his son a snake when he asks for a fish?  Or hand him a scorpion when he asks for an egg?  If you then, who are wicked, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the Father in heaven give the holy Spirit* to those who ask him?” Lk 11:11-13


Yet, do we pray to the Holy Spirit, the divine love, for our children?


Often I pray to the Holy Spirit that  young people may discern religious vocations. Yet, I who have prayed so earnestly to Jesus, St Monica, guardian angel and to so many saints for my child have not considered praying to the Holy Spirit.




I know that it is not my choice but my child’s life and choice. I pray they chose to live a good and holy life, but again it is out of my hands. Whose hands is it in? It is in the hands of God, especially that of the Third Person, the Holy Spirit.


The workings of the Holy Spirit is one of the great mysteries of our faith. Who knows where or when the Holy Spirit may act, but we know by the good fruits where He has acted. There is always a change within those touched by the Spirit, a change of heart toward holiness.


Slowly, I have come to the realization that I must pray to the Holy Spirt for my child. For it is God’s will not mine that will overcome evil and ‘make straight the crooked path’.


This Pope speaks to the marginalized like me!



When I first heard this declaration I thought, Pope Francis is speaking the poor, those in prison and those in need, the handicapped, abandoned, refugees and so on.

I did not realize until the most recent encyclical on the family that I, the mother of a child who experiences same sex attraction, is among “the marginalized” whom Pope Francis wants to reach. I feel like yelling at the top of my lungs,
“Thank God, now Holy Mother Church may take a more active
role in helping those like me.”

Many of us wounded healers who work in the vineyard of the same-sex ministries through EnCourage and Courage have felt marginalized within society and sadly within the Church’s family.

Granted, Holy Mother Church does not abandon us, but she has only offered a few kind words, where we her hurt children desire a warm and hearty hug. Hopefully, this encyclical is just a first step.

EnCourage and Courage should be active ministries in every diocese. There is much confusion and sadness surrounding same sex attraction and the Church’s beautiful and compassionate teachings. We need to reach out to bring closer to Christ’s love and healing to those with same sex attraction and their loved ones.

May God continue to bless Pope Francis and may we, the body of Christ, now armed with the exhortations of this new encyclical, reach out and help the marginalized, the poor, the sick and, yes, those who like me who have family members who experience same sex attraction.

St. Joseph Feast Day Wisdom


Joseph, unlike Jesus and Mary, you were just like us. You were not God’s only begotten Son, and yet you were created to raise and protect and guide in human ways, God’s Son. You were not born without sin, and yet you were created to be husband to a woman born without sin. In theory, then, you were just like us, and yet, how often can we say we are just like you? Help us, foster father of Jesus and husband of Mary, to be loving spouses, good parents, and diligent workers. Guide us to do the labor God gives us, in our families and in our workplaces, without complaints or self-pity. Strengthen us with the patience to accept our lot in life and follow the path God has set us on. Amen. (May 1st is the Feast Day of St. Joseph the Worker.)